Preparation Is Key!
Alright folks, it is January, 23rd which means that Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. For some reason I am glad that I have not had time to go to any store to be bombarded with that cheap crap they throw in your face in hopes that you will be caught in the last minutes of Feb 13th and buy your loved one a heart-shaped box of that nasty chocolate with the yellow and pink filling…ewwwww. But I am here to give you a few suggestions on ways that you can make this Valentine’s Day a simple yet fulfilling one. Now this does not count as my V-day post, I will be back in February to expound on Love, but this is just a little schomthin schomthin…lol. Anywho, we are STILL in a recession so it may be smart to keep things on the simple tip this year. Now if you can afford to do it up for your boo, GREAT, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t incorporate of few of these tips in your plans. (And by the way, as much as I want to take credit for these suggestions I can’t, I came across them on another site…enjoy them nonetheless)
Ban all Media - take a day and dodge all distractions from the outside world. No TV, no video games and no computers. Light candles and incense around the house and put on some music. This will force you to find a way to entertain each other. Be it board games or a deck of cards or simply getting lost in conversation under a blanket. You might learn something you never knew about him/her. (This is such a great idea in our world of non-stop communication and technology)
Photo Album - this will make for some good ol’ reminiscing! To relive good times that you’ve shared together is always fun and makes for some good hearty laughs. So go through your photos and put an album together. If you don’t have many or any pictures together, make a point to take your camera with you places and add the photos to the album. (This would work really well if you happen to have a Braxton P. Hartnebrig or a Myra (Family Matters)…not trying to say your thug or diva won’t make a photo album, but you may get a side eye…lol)
Mirror Messages -keep a dry erase marker in your bathroom drawer and leave notes for your boo. Even if you don’t live together it’s a fun way to stay in touch. They could read something as simple as, “Hey sexy! Have a good day, xoxo!” Or it could be something as racy as “I can’t wait to _____ you tonight.” Whatever it is, it will be appreciated and it will also spark good thoughts. (Now this is just too cute/kinky, I know..ya’ll probably think its corny, but this would just make my day hehe)
TiVo -Fellas, search through your cable listing and TiVo movies that you think she would like to watch or her favorite movies without her knowing. Ladies, do the same with the action flicks but go the extra mile and be sure to catch those games he mentioned he’s going to miss and the next time he comes over turn it on for him. He’ll love you for it. (Consideration is key and goes a long way)
Whisper Sweet Nothings - whispering will awaken all senses in no time for both him and her. Your boo with see you inching closer, then catch a whiff of your cologne/perfume, then hear and feel your voice vibrate in their ears if only just to say, “I missed you today.” It’s the little things. (Hmmmm…I’m personally not a fan of sweet nothings, just tell me what you got to tell me…ain’t no need to whisper..j/p..but yeah…if you like it, I LOVE it..not my style though)
Corny is the New Black -if you can make your lover laugh, you’re golden. Who cares what it is! Fellas, if it’s your falsetto renditions of her favorite songs that keeps her in stitches, do it! Ladies, if it’s your moments of oblivious ignorance to all thing alpha-male, fire away with those quirky questions. Laughter is one of the best cure-alls! (Being corny/silly with me will get a guy a lllooonnng way…I LOVE IT!!!)
Dance - whether it’s a slow dance in the kitchen every once in a while or an 80’s dance contest. There’s never a bad time to be romantic or silly with your significant other. Chest to chest and cheek to cheek or doing the “running man” to Guy’s “Groove Me” are moments that aren’t easily forgotten. (I always said if a guy could slow dance with me in my kitchen to no music I was sold)
No Sex - okay, it’s hard. But do you remember your teens when you would make out for hours without even thinking of having sex? If you enjoy kissing your loved one, then make a night of kissing and fondling through fabrics! It’ll be fun! And is brings a sense of innocence to your love. (This is actually a great idea…people feel the need to have sex when intimacy consist of so much more than that)
Take a Walk - walking and talking are synonymous. There’s something to be said about fresh air and clarity. If your lady/man had a bad day, make the suggestion to take a walk! Let him/her let loose in the open as opposed to within four walls. Best not to contain the negative, literally. Afterwards, go home and do one of the above! (This just sounds so peaceful and relaxing, my type of way to end a good or bad day)
Play Chef - the kitchen is the nucleus of most homes where families and friends tend to hang out, talk, eat, drink and be merry. So agree on a dish or a recipe that neither one of you have tried and prepare it together! That way if it’s an epic fail, there’s no one to blame. If nothing else, you’ve tried something new together! (Now don’t let the pretty face fool you..I can get down in the kitchen if I concentrate lol..but I love the idea)
Being in a loving relationship is not always about lavish gifts, fancy dinners and expensive vacations. It’s all to often the little things and tender moments that are kept near and dear to a devoted heart and that’ll spark a smile or a random giggle in the middle of the day! So take some time and remember that it is, indeed, as simple as you make it!
~SoSaditty~
