WHHYYYY???
Saturday, 23 Jan 2010
There are 3 things about others that I have come to realize ANNOY THE CRAP out of me. And I hate to say it but some of my closest friends lack these traits (and no this does not include my best friend, she is one who actually posses the three traits described below). I have stated before that I have learned to just accept people for who they are. I DO NOT want to change anyone, but it would be nice to strongly encourage in a not so coercive yet firmly compelling way that they should: 1) Become global, if not national citizens, 2) learn to enjoy self and 3) learn to trust self.
GLOBAL CITIZEN: I am amazed at the number of people I know who are content with being born, raised, married, and buried in the same exact town/city/state. Now before I continue, remember this is my personal opinion. I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again that shall you be offended by anything said on this site that little red “X” in the top right corner is calling your name. Anywho…now that that’s out the way…I have some friends/associates that have no desire to explore or take advantage of all that is “out there” to see and experience. I think going to college in another state from which I was raised was one of the best things I ever did, and I will strongly encourage my kids to do the same. It exposed me to so much and has had a great impact on the person that I am today. I definitely was not raised in a small town by any means, but just experiencing a different city has opened my eyes to so many different cultures, people, experience, etc. I think it makes you such a more well-rounded person when you are forced to step outside of your comfort zone. All of this is increased exponentially when you expose yourself to other countries (sorry..Cancun, Mexico doesn’t count). I have been to several and hopefully will take another international trip later this year or next year. I must admit that right now I would like to return home, but I know that I probably will not stay there for the rest of my life. If I could, I would move to a different city/country every two years. There is just so much to see and do and I feel as though many people limit their development/growth as individuals by not getting that exposure.
ENJOYING SELF: Now before I get started I have to mentally limit myself on how far I will discuss this one because this is a disease that many people have…not being able to do stuff alone and enjoying yourself. I love hanging out with my friends and going out, but most people also know that I also like my me time. I am in no way saying that you have to be a loner, or play checkers by yourself by playing both sides. That’s not what I’m talking about. BUT there are some individuals I know that CONSTANTLY have to be around others and when they are not, they are bored stiff. I struggle with understanding how someone who doesn’t enjoy their own company can expect others to fully enjoy it. Sitting in your bedroom on the computer tweeting, as you bbm on your blackberry, while talking to your home girl on the phone does not count as enjoying time to yourself. If you find it hard to be at home alone for more than an hour…THERE IS A PROBLEM. I think to some degree it all boils down to a confidence/insecurity issue, but I’m no Dr. Young so whatev. (P.S. for the record I’m in my room alone..glass of wine…listening to Lupe…blogging and enjoying my own company)
TRUST YOURSELF: Now that I am 25 years old I find it so much easier to go with my gut and trust myself. If I decide that something I want to pursue is the right decision for me I got for it; rarely do I ask others for approval or opinions. But that comes with being confident in myself and having a better since of self (we have already had that conversation remember?..I am definitely not 100%, never will be, but I am a lot better than I was last year). I know some people that need a co-signer on EVER single decision they make in life. If there is one thing I hate, it’s someone without a firm opinion who will easily acquiesce. I HATE when, for example, one of my friends says something like “girl, I am sooooo excited to be getting my hair done, I think I’m going to get a tuck, french roll combo.” I reply with “oh ok, I haven’t had a tuck in about 10 years but hey do you.” Of course they come back with “hmmmm…well you’re right, I may just get it straight, a tuck is so ’95.” NOW T-2 seconds ago you were all for the tuck…YOU BETTA FIGHT FOR YOUR TUCK…hell, add some pin-curls, a pushwave, a side ponytail, some bumper curls, and doo-doo braids for all I care, but just DO WHAT YOU WANT. Don’t let what I think sway your opinion because I could care less what you say, I’m going to get my hair done or whatever it is the way I want it. Not that I don’t like advice or opinions, but when it gets down to the get down it’s what I like and what I think works or is best for me. The last thing you want in life is to look back and have a ton of “what-ifs” because you were so busy wondering what other’s thought you should do that you never did what you truly wanted for yourself.
~SoSaditty~
YYEEAAAAHHH! Another BLOG!
I have to admit, I agree with you on the first half of your blog. There are sooooo many people, places & things to see outside of lets say, “Atlanta (the city), Georgia (the state) and USA (the country). Get out and EXPERIENCE LIFE for goodness sakes. What is interesting or exciting about seeing the SAME people and places you have seen since elementary school. NOTHING! I mean it’s good to stay in contact and see them every once in a while, but damn, every week or weekend. NOT FOR REAL! Life has sooooo much more to offer. So I definitely feel you on this one.
OK on the 2nd paragraph. I myself, can enjoy “self” to the fullest! I often sit with my glass of wine, chilling to some good music & either watching tv, reading a book or on my computer. To some that may sound lame, but to me that sounds like a GREAT chill time.
#3rd, don’t even know what to say. You had me rollin’ on this one. That hair style situation was hilarious. All those old school hair styles brought back memories cause I used to rock the hell out of a french roll tuck combo. You couldn’t tell me shit when I had that! LMAO! A Shirlene special! LOL! But anywho, to be honest, out of all 3 of these I think I suffer from this syndrome more than the others. I think I ask for others opinions or listen to others opinions when I really shouldn’t care. After reading this, I think I AM going to start doing things that “I” want to do. And more than likely it will be without asking for suggestions or opinions, because then I may fall back into my ways of NOT doing what I wanted simply because I think more of what someone else thinks or wants instead of putting what I want first. So that is DEFINITELY something that I will work on for this year. THANKS!
I laugh every time I read all those hair styles!